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It’s a testament to how sad my life is that yesterday I had PTO and was still awake by 6:45am.  Because dude, that’s sleeping in.  Almost three hours worth.

And upon waking up I logged into my Blo.omberg Anywhere and scrolled through all hundred or so of my messages to make sure there was nothing important happening.  And then I checked my workberry for emails and replied to one.  Which kind of makes my out-of-office message useless right? 

When did I turn into such a workaholic?  This is sick.

Anyway, the dinner went ok.  I was only somewhat socially awkward, instead of ridiculously socially awkward, so all in all I consider it a success.  Especially because the clients/my superiors were pretty drunk and I was not.

Back to the phone meeting with the adoption coordinator…

** So to pick up where I left off, my health could be an issue.  She wasn’t sure.  She was very sympathetic and understanding, but she said she really couldn’t tell me whether or not the adoption board would be okay with my condition.  She is meeting with the head of the adoption board early next week so she is going to discuss my case with her and reflect that everything is well-controlled and my doctors would be willing to provide documentation stating my ability to parent.  She said that they are usually pretty understanding but that she wouldn’t want to mislead me.  She was very sweet about it, really, and promised to get back to me next week. 

As an aside, THIS is the crap about adoption that is ANYTHING BUT simple or easy.  It’s kind of humiliating to have my fitness as a parent be questioned knowing there are sixteen year old drug addicts getting knocked up on accident and no one will question their ability to parent.  Don’t get me wrong, I understand why adoptive parents have to go through this process, but nope, nothing “easy” about this at all.  And seriously, we need to put more emphasis on what’s best for the child in this country as opposed to our blanket policy of reunification until the birth parents do something so horrendous or just sign away their rights…Bah this is not meant to turn into a rant so I’ll just stop there.

** If the head of the adoption board gives us the nod, the adoption coordinator still wouldn’t recommend doing a homestudy just yet because certain documents will expire and it takes an average of about 4 months to be “paper ready” (homestudy, adoption classes, etc. from what I gather).  Since they are guestimating 6-8months to be put on the waiting list, she recommends doing the research now, but not actually moving forward with a homestudy for another 3-4 months.    She said to make sure to disclose my condition to my homestudy provider as some of them may have an issue with it.  Bleh.

** Overall I feel hopeful.  I haven’t heard the word no yet, so at least there’s that.  I think one of the reasons I’ve felt so attached to this program is that I was hoping because it is so small I’d have a better chance of being able to plead my case.  A lot of the big programs probably already have this stuff figured out, but she said she hasn’t encountered this issue yet so they will evaluate my case individually.  I definitely got the feeling she would at least present my case objectively and wasn’t against me or anything.  Also, the reason I haven’t mentioned the program by name is because it’s so small that I think it would make this site way too easy to search for.  I don’t mind sharing in private though!  (Hillary, it’s not a Hague accredited program but they said they do sort of use it as a guide.)

** Think I will begin reaching out to other programs now that I have a bit of momentum going.  If the Korea program is going to reject us, I’d rather have it happen sooner rather than later so that Paul can put it out of his mind.