I'm almost done with Dr. Laura's latest book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage and I don't know how but somehow this song found it's way onto my playlist (I think it came with my computer or something because I know for a fact I never downloaded it). This song reminded me of one of the key themes in her book, which is that marriage is really about the hard times and loving each other through them. This is not what most people think of when they think of marriage. We tend to think about the good times, the happy times, but all of those are a given. The good days are not what marriage is about because those are the days when it's easy to love your spouse. Marriage is about enduring through the bad times, the times when you hate the person almost as much as you love them. There is something amazing about the ability to persistently love someone even when you feel knocked flat on your back by that other person.

I think it's really important to remember this when you're thinking about getting married and I've promised myself that anytime I get angry with Paul I will think about three things I love about him before opening my mouth.

Anyway, I thought this might be a good first dance song even though it's not a completely happy lovey-dovey song, precisely because it isn't one of those songs that makes love into a fairy-tale. I think that is one of the biggest reasons for all the divorce nowadays - people think marriage is supposed to be easy and make your life perfect and that the other person will automatically know and fill all your needs. Marriage is about giving of yourself and sacrificing to make the other person happy because they will do the same for you. That is what makes a marriage kind of perfect.

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